#5 Passion and Self-Belief – the ultimate high note.

If you want to hit life’s high notes again and again, you have to really want it and you have to be committed to making it happen. It is so important, because without that commitment and without the courage and confidence that comes with it, nothing can be achieved. Self belief is something that comes when you truly believe in what you are doing. When you truly believe that what you are doing is the best thing for you. When Colonel Sanders drove to 1,000 restaurants over the course of a couple years, living in his car, trying to sell his chicken recipe, he did so because he believed in what he did. He had a passion for it and he had the courage to make it happen for himself. Having that passion is what will help you hit those high notes. Passion is what will get you out of bed each morning to pursue your dream. Passion is what will inspire others to listen to you and want you to succeed and want to help you succeed. Passion is what you will tell people when you find that success and they ask you how you did it.

Many of us have been taught to be victims of the outside world. We are taught that what happens in the world outside of ourselves is what shapes our beliefs, but in fact, the exact opposite is true: your beliefs shape your outside world, and your reality.

Your beliefs shape your reality.

It sure sounds nice, doesn’t it? Well, this isn’t just a pleasant thing to say, or a nice thing to hear, this is the nature of reality. I know, I know, it sounds like a lot of hippy, new agey, guru stuff, but it’s actually science.

Many scientists are starting to put together the pieces of this “beliefs shape your reality” phenomenon. It’s a highly contested area which attracts as many critics as it does fans. One of the more prominent, and controversial players, is of course Dr. Bruce Lipton. Using the best and most up-to-date research in cell biology and quantum mechanics, Dr. Bruce Lipton, breakthrough scientist and author of “The Biology of Belief,” claimed he was able to scientifically prove that we can control our lives by changing our beliefs and perceptions.

The studies conducted by Lipton, along with many other scientists, reveal a completely new understanding of life; they show that the brain of the cell is found not in the nucleus, nor in the DNA, but in the cellular mem-BRAIN, the outer layer of the cell. This study shows us that DNA and genes do not control our biology, but our biology is instead controlled by signals from outside of the cell- the chemical messages sent from the brain.

In one experiment, he tested cells in a petri dish (after all, he says, we are all just skin-covered petri dishes). He took the exact same cell, let it replicate, and split it up into two different petri dishes. In one petri dish, he added the chemicals our brains produce when we feel love: dopamine, oxytocin, etc. The result, the cells grew at a phenomenal and healthy rate! In the other petri dish, however, he added chemicals produced when your brain feels fear, like cortisol. The result, the cells became weak, shrank, and started dying. He did absolutely nothing to the internal cell, he only changed the environment in which they lived.

So who controls the chemical messages that are sent from the brain? Certainly not a magic genie. WE control the chemical messages, by controlling how we perceive the world around us. It is our beliefs – our positive and negative thoughts and emotions – that control the cell. The cell, then, materializes the world around us.

The trick is, is that it all begins with our perception, and our perceptions come directly from our beliefs. We choose how to feel about the world around us; we can either perceive the world to be full of love, or full of fear.

The problem is, is that most of our subconscious beliefs have been ingrained in us since we were wee little tots, and most of them happen to be self-limiting. Those beliefs of, “you don’t deserve that,” and “you’re not good enough,” have been programmed into our subconscious minds, and honestly and physically controlling the outcome of our lives. The most important thing we can do now is work on re-programming our beliefs.

I obviously don’t have time today to fully dive into the research that has been conducted here, but if you would like to learn more, and dive deeper into these new, world-changing discoveries, I highly recommend reading Dr. Bruce Lipton’s book, “The Biology of Belief,” or watching some of his lectures online. Don’t worry – there’s as much criticism as there is support of his work to keep it fair and balanced.

So, belief in yourself and that you can accomplish these goals is absolutely crucial in hitting life’s high notes. You can think outside the box, perceive your challenges as teachers, be brave, be resilient, work hard -all of these- but you won’t get anywhere if you don’t believe that you actually can.

Passion is also about building the right team around you. Passion will help you establish the perfect team for you and create a culture of shared values. It will make your employees come into work each day to contribute more than they ever thought they could. It will make them want to be an integral part of your business because the passion you have will be infectious to them as well.

Steve Jobs was seen as a man who was rough on his employees, but what many didn’t realize from the outside was that he had a passion for what he did, a passion that fueled him and it pushed his team at Apple to become better, and while there were difficult times, he made them better at their jobs and made them more successful in the process.

The absolute best thing you can do as a team member, or as an employer, is to find what sparks the passion in those around you, and constantly and consistently arouse it. The most encouraging thing you can do for a fellow teammate is to show them that you believe in them. Believe in your goal, in your mission, in those around you, and most importantly, in yourself. If everyone is constantly fired up by their passions, and fully believing in their ability to accomplish goals and be successful, your work space will soon be a symphony of high notes.

When you are on your journey to hitting life’s high notes time and time again, passion and self-belief are incredibly important. So much comes from confidence, including the ability to commit to the journey and to have the courage to get you through the hard times.

What about self-belief? That is essentially confidence. You know what you are doing is the right thing and the best thing for you. You have the firm belief that you are on the right track and you are the person to make it all happen.

Babe Ruth is the greatest baseball player in history. His 714 homeruns was an iconic record for decades, but he also had 1,330 strikeouts, which was also a record for decades. Why was this the case? Because he always believed in himself and believed that the next pitch was the next homerun. He gave it his all every single swing, and sometimes he struck out, but sometimes he hit a towering homerun. He had that belief in himself.

Fred Astaire is one of the most loved movie stars of the 20th century, but when he did his first screen test he was told by the MGM testing director that he couldn’t act, he couldn’t sing and he could only dance a little. He believed in himself and he had a passion for acting, dancing and singing. He didn’t give up and as we know he went on to become an iconic singer and dancer, as well as an actor. He kept the note the testing director sent him in a frame at his Beverly Hills mansion to always remind him of where he had come from.

Another example of a person who had a passion for what he did was Vincent Van Gogh. He was a troubled man but he had a passion for painting. He painted and painted and painted because he loved it and he had that passion. He would sell one painting in his life, and that was sold to his brother. It didn’t stop him, and he continued to paint, creating over 800 works in his life. While he didn’t see that success in his life, it did come after he died, and now his paintings are worth hundreds of millions of dollars. Today he is remembered as one of the most famous and influential figures in art.

These people didn’t give up. They swung for the fences and missed, but kept swinging for those home runs. They had the self-belief that they were a good singer and dancer, and they didn’t give up on themselves. They had a passion for painting and despite mental illness and poverty, they pushed that passion to create stunning artworks.

A few years ago I put together a squad of exceptionally talented young dancers and singers because I wanted to create a show that took advantage of the success of the musical ‘Jersey Boys’ which celebrated the music of Frankie Valli and the Four Seasons and I wanted to integrate it with the incredible acts of Motown. In fact I called it ‘Jersey to Motown’. On day one of rehearsals I could see the guys were wanting to do a good job and learn the routines but I could see, being the young 20 something’s they were, that the music and the era didn’t exactly excite them.  They were going through the motions. They didn’t get it. That was when I realised I had to try and instil a bit of exuberance for the material they were working with. So we looked at videos of the Motown acts and many of the Frankie Valli songs and I was able to put it all into a context of how it changed the face of rock’n’roll at a volatile moment in America’s history. I found myself becoming passionate when explaining the awesome effect music of the 60’s had on society across the world, the extraordinary political and social upheaval taking place especially in the area of civil rights. Something must have worked because by the 3rd day they were showing all the signs that this music was indeed truly incredible and their performance levels lifted hugely. That transition came about because I was intrinsically passionate about the era, the music and the effect I knew the show would have on any audience. Happy to say the show’s still going great guns and is still the best way to get any crowd up out of their seats and on to the dance floor and keep them there.

I’ve also had shows that have failed miserably. That could often hurt. They’re expensive to workshop and rehearse. They’re time consuming. A lot of passion goes into producing and marketing them. When the public give you a big ‘we don’t care’ signal it can really sting. But the last thing I’m going to do is pack up and go home. I’m passionate about creating ‘wow factor’ acts that transform events. If an idea doesn’t work then I just need to suck it up and think of another one.

That is what passion is. Doing what you have to do, even in the face of adversity, never giving up and always believing in yourself and your path.

An Australian Event Awards ‘Entertainer of the Year’, a music theatre star and co-founder of the world’s most booked corporate entertainment act ‘The Three Waiters’, Darryl’s keynote presentation ‘Hitting the High Notes’ is a compelling story with walk-the-talk key take-home messages and is a ‘must see’ for conference attendees worldwide. He is a unique combination of entrepreneur, speaker and showman – a mesmerising blend of business smarts, engaging storytelling and live opera! It is a combination that has made Darryl one of Australia’s most in demand business and resilience speakers, headlining many Top 500 company conferences including the famed ‘Million Dollar Round Table’ in the USA.

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